It’s an Honor
Being asked to serve as the maid or matron of honor not only means that the bride treasures your relationship, it means she is counting on you during the entire process to be her go-to-gal.
Here are some tips for being a “Grade A” honor attendant.
First off, gather contact information for each of the bridesmaids (phone numbers, home addresses and email addresses). Send a short introduction email to the girls introducing yourself and let them know you will be in touch regarding bridal party duties and upcoming activities. And let them know you would love their help! The biggest tasks you will tackle are hosting the bridal shower and bachelorette party. Costs should be divided between the bridal party, but consider what the girls are able to contribute before you book a get-away to Paris!
Next, attend any meetings for which the bride requests your presence. Picking out her dress is a big one. Offer your honest opinions…but be careful in your delivery. Brides are extra sensitive about their attire. Speaking of attire – let the bride suggest the bridesmaid dresses. Don’t start sending her ideas, unless she asks you to. Once the shopping process begins, go with the dress that SHE loves. Remember, she has the full picture of the look and feel of her wedding.
Keep all bows and ribbons form her shower presents and make them into a practice bouquet for her rehearsal. Offer her a ride to the rehearsal, so she doesn’t have to drive and be by her side at all times. When you head over to the rehearsal dinner, make sure to check on her often and only toast if she asks you to. Maid of honor toasts are usually reserved for the reception.
For the wedding ceremony, you will be responsible to arrange the bride’s train and hold her bouquet when the couple exchanges vows and rings. Make sure you give her bouquet back to her before she recesses down the aisle. Also, you will be responsible for the groom’s ring during the ceremony. Putting it on your thumb is a great way to keep it in place. And finally, have a hanky wrapped around your bouquet so you can hand it to the bride if she needs it.
During the reception, hold on to any makeup the bride might need for touch ups. Also, accompany her to the restroom when she needs to go, as it is not a one-person job Make sure the bride has plenty to eat and stays hydrated throughout the night.
Finally, arrange for the wedding night suite to be decorated. Rose petals, candles, chocolate covered strawberries and champagne are always a hit.
Follow all of the aforementioned steps for honor attendant success!